Rules

Rules

When the going gets tough, the tough go traveling!

An excerpt from Adventures By Sailplane

B.S. (By Sailplane) B.C. (Before Cancer)

Flying a sailplane demands all my concentration. It is like anything I have done before. Vague and invisible forces of risking and sinking air form this world and I must find the rising air if I am to stay aloft. Where is it? Which way should I go?

Where before things had been real and tangible, here things are vague and invisible. Currents and suggestions abound, but there is little physical evidence to follow. How do I know that there will be lift under that cloud? How do I know where to look under it? Why do I rise in the air for no apparent reason? Why do I encounter sinking air? I do not yet understand any of this.

If I choose properly, I will have a good flight. If I do not, I will spend the day scrapping for lift and  I’ll never go anywhere.

I have dropped into another world and I do not yet understand its ways. They are foreign. I fly though areas of blue sky, blue holes, where there should be no lift, only to find myself in an avenue of rising air that seems to extend as far as I fly.

Yet not two steps to my left, the air is sinking, fast, down towards the earth. If I make the mistake of drifting off into that air, I will lose a great deal of altitude. It could terminate my flight. In a field or s0me other place I don’t want to be. Just two steps over.

When I first started flying, there were rules. You enter the pattern at this altitude. Never lower. You have to have a field picked out at this altitude. You do not stray. Things have a definite progression.

At some point, judgement starts coming into the equation. Former guidelines are reconsidered, challenged. Now I enter my pattern a bit lower. At one thousand feet, I still look for lift, not yet committing to a landout. I readjust the rules, but sometimes I get bitten by this. Some rules are good rules. I need to mind them. I am not greater than the forces around me. Whenever I dare to think that I am, my arrogance comes back to haunt me.

Conscious and unconscious rules. In my heart I know when I have strayed too far. When I feel those first tugs of uncertainty, it is time for me to temper my will and look at the sky around me. I must fly with it, not in spite of it.

I have that sense that things are amiss. I can’t quite put my finger on it, but I think I need to concentrate on perceiving lift.

 

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Fasnacht Day

Fasnacht Day

When the going gets tough, the tough go traveling!

An excerpt from Adventures By Sailplane

B.S. (By Sailplane) B.C. (Before Cancer)

 

Pennsylvania 1988

Moving from the decadent abandon of New Orleans and Mardi Gras to this germanic mid-Atlantic culture where Fat Tuesday was Fasnacht Day was an unbearable contrast for my gastronomic soul. Fasnachts are donut holes. On Fat Tuesday, Mardi Gras, the day in which all of New Orleans rocks and rolls, eats and drinks and parties until the sun rises, the Pennsylvania Dutch consume donut holes.

Hershey is a relatively small town outside of Harrisburg, in the central Pennsylvania countryside. It’s main claim to fame is the chocolate company. Milton S. Hershey’s legacy lives throughout the town, with the Hershey Chocolate company and Hershey Park historically providing employment for the area. That and the medical center. Milton S. Hersey gave $50 million dollars to the state university to start a medical school, with the stipulation that it be built in this town.

In the rarified world of Ivy League academic parlance, Hershey Med Center is not quite top drawer. Those distinctions are awarded among themselves, to the Hopkins and Harvards of the world. But it was growing, forming a new center for spine surgery, and for Michael it offered an opportunity. Or at least, that was his perception.

When I think about moving to Pennsylvania, I always remember a sign along the Pennsylvania Turnpike. Harrisburg 97 miles, it reads.  I recall a total sense of isolation and panic. What would I do here? Loyal spouse, I disregarded my concerns and concerned myself with packing and moving halfway across the country and into the country.

Central Pennsylvania is a curious place. It is extremely conservative, almost out of the fifties. As I started looking for work, I encountered attitudes which were well beyond my experience. I had one potential employer say that he wanted to meet my husband, and another ask why I wanted to work at all. I did not  fit in.

Conformity was valued here, and this tendency showed itself in peculiar ways. One was the uniform consensus that this was such a perfect place. Quiet, peaceful, predictable.

“This is a great place to raise a family,” I was told again and again. This chant took on an eerie quality, repeated as if it was a mantra, providing a buffer from any other possible perception. I was unable to connect with the seemingly mono-dimensional perspective of a world I did not belong  to. Lives were bounded and well defined. In medical circles, wives were marked by the status of their husbands. I missed New Haven and the eclectic, energetic academic environment of a major university and I longed for the waters of the Sound, the music of the buoy, and the cool seaside breezes of summer.

I should have put my foot down about going to central Pennsylvania. There was something  eerily incongruent about the area. I couldn’t put my finger on what it was that bothered  me, but something was not right.

But instead, I deferred to my husband. It was his first job after his medical training had finally finished and I wanted him have the freedom to do what he wanted. Besides, I could hardly force him go back to Connecticut or to give the west coast a try. So I was along for the ride.

***

It was a Friday evening and I planned a leisurely dinner for the two of us that evening. In New Haven we used to share leisurely dinners, talking until all hours. I decided to throw some steaks on the grill for dinner in an attempt to dredge up the pleasant past.

For the first time in nearly three years, we were finally getting unpacked in a new house, in a new town.

“Isn’t dinner ready yet?” he inquired.

“In a minute. How do you want your steak?”

“Goddamn it.”

“What’s wrong?”

“There’s dog hair on my pants.”

“We do have a dog.” The bassett hound howled in agreement.

He ignored both of us and topped off his drink.

“Aren’t you on call tonight?”

“Only spine call.”

I looked at him. Only spine call. If any spine trauma came into the emergency room tonight, Michael was the surgeon responsible.

He avoided my gaze.

“Here,” I gestured him into the dining room with a plate of food. “You look beat. You know what we should do? We should go on a trip. When was the last time we took a vacation?” I asked, joining him at the table.

“Life is not a vacation,” he admonished in his new found assistant professor’s tone.

“I know that. I just want to take one with you. We live in the same house and never see each other. I think we need to spend some time together. Remember how much fun we used to have in Maine?”

He ignored me.

“St. Maarten?” The days at Yale, remember those? I silently inquired.

“We haven’t had a vacation in five years. Five years! You look terrible and you have no life outside the hospital!”

“There’s nothing wrong with my life.”

“What life? All you do is work. You are totally stressed out. I don’t know how much more of this I can take. If it’s not getting to you, it sure is getting to me.”

“There is no stress.  I like my work.”

I looked at him hard across the dinner table.

“You do nothing but complain. You hate your peers, you hate your patients and you are chronically unhappy. You hate the call schedule;  you hate the new Dean. You blow up over nothing. You have dropped all your outside interests and friends and you refuse to take a simple vacation. You’re drawn, you’re grey and you drink too much.”

Michael was silent. Rock still. I had intruded on sacred ground, but I couldn’t stop now.

“Look at you. You’re on call tonight and you’re on your third drink.”

He glared at me.

“Michael, get out of that hospital. Go away alone if you have to. Stop drinking. Get some perspective, get some help. Your job doesn’t love you. Your patients don’t love you. Your staff doesn’t care about you. But I do and I cannot seem to reach you. I am really worried about you. I see a man who I love dearly, falling steadily apart. You’re miserable, stressed out and working yourself to death, for what? For your boss? For a title? For  money? All the money in the world isn’t worth this. If you died tomorrow, would you wish you’d spent another day at the hospital?”

Silence. Deafening silence.

Michael rest his fork on is plate. He looks dark and unwell.

“Michael, what is wrong?”

Dark circles hang low under his eyes. Tears seemed to form, then hatred. “I never loved you. I am in love with my nurse. She loves me. She needs me..”

The sound of the beeper. Michael reaches quickly for it, leaving his words hanging in the air.

Emergency room. Auto accident on the way, spine trauma and Michael is on call. He quickly downs the remainder of his drink and without another word, leaves. I hear the garage door open and close, as he disappears in his new Mercedes.

I sit, stunned, in the silence left behind.

 

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Spin

Spin


When the going gets tough, the tough go traveling!

An excerpt from Adventures By Sailplane

B.S. (By Sailplane) B.C. (Before Cancer)

 

It was a tight thermal, swirling rapidly upwards. I banked the glider hard to the left. The large metal sailplane banked and seated itself in the rising air.

The altimeter indicates climb, but I can not sense it in this heavy plane.

“Stick back,” my instructor advises. Back pressure, back pressure and rudder to keep the plane turning tightly to climb in a narrow thermal. I hold the plane and we gain altitude. The thermal is small and it takes all my effort to try to center the plane in the rising air. Slow, keep the plane slow, because we climb ever so much better just above stall speed.  It is an art, flying a sailplane, and I am absorbed in practicing my craft.

And then, without notice, I am looking over my toes at the earth rotating around and around. My straps press into my shoulders and I hang from the mounts.  One rotation. Two. Another. Green earth beneath my feet. The sight is mesmerizing, pulling me down with it. The altimeter spins down.

I am stunned; I truly don’t know what happened. I instinctively neutralize the stick and push it forward, kick rudder and regain airspeed. The plane rights itself. In the thermal, the combination of too much opposite stick and rudder had produced a cross control spin.

I have lost a great deal of altitude.

 

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Alone

Alone

When the going gets tough, the tough go traveling!

An excerpt from Adventures By Sailplane

B.S. (By Sailplane) B.C. (Before Cancer)

Until you stand alone, you do not stand. The first time I truly stood alone was when I was diagnosed with myasthenia gravis. It was at Yale. Doctors would barely look mean the eye when I asked hard questions. Hard answers were not their turf. Events after my surgery had nothing to do with them . Survival was my affair.

“Don’t let skin stand between you and the diagnosis.”

They didn’t. There was surgery and drugs. Eventually I would beat the odds and be alright, but at the time I had no idea if I would be alive next year.

What would become of me? How could this be happening?

There were people who came into my life, as if by chance; people who were sent to befriend and help me, but I was too frightened to let them in. What was I frightened of? I try to recall. Of living. Of feeling. For I had made a terrible  mistake in marrying an unfeeling man.

Alone again in a sailplane. This time I feel. I feel terror. I am low over the land. There, a football field. But in my heart of hearts I know I can’t get my plane into that field. There are goal posts and bleachers. Fences. It is too early the season, and I am not seasoned enough.

I want to cry out like a little child. But there is no one to come to my rescue. I am alone in the cockpit. I must save myself.

Sink. There is nothing but sink everywhere in this valley.

I will have to land.

I will have to land.

Last time I landed out in a field I came in high and managed to stop before I would have flown into the trees. I walk back in my mind and look at that landing. The trees were terribly close. I had made a series of bad judgements.

I remember landing, drifting. A  bit too fast, a bit too high. None of this good. The trees are coming. If I do not get this down, I will smash into the forest at five feet off the ground. I do not want to do that.

Forget that, focus here now.

Turn off the radio. Concentrate. Concentrate on the task at hand. Five hundred feet.  I am over the black tarred roof of a high school. It is my last chance. The accumulated heat on the roof might just generate a thermal.

I feel a bare bubble under my right wing. I prefer to thermal left, but that is irrelevant. I turn and I bank the plane very, very carefully, watching to keep that yaw string perfectly straight. The plane climbs better in a slight slip but not now. Now I fly perfectly.

I look at the altimeter. I lost thirty feet on that last circle. But lift is here, I can feel it. It is erratic and disorganized. Another turn. Another. I wait, a timeless wait, and I try to hold my altitude. It is not even, but there is something here. I  fear that if I move the plane I will lose the fledgling lift that seems to be forming and there may not be another opportunity at this altitude to find it again. I stay put.

The bank is steep and I hold it so, constant, just turning around and around and around, hoping, praying. I watch my airspeed. No chance to stall, keep it a little fast, but fast the plane doesn’t climb as well.

I grind around and around praying that my wings catch some wisp of rising air. I am down to five hundred feet AGL when the altimeter slowly, almost imperceptibly, starts to rise.

Just keep it here. Keep it in the forming lift.

I am near tears.

Around and around. How much time passes I do not know, and it does not matter. Flying plays games with time. All that matters is altitude. Precious altitude. I am approaching 1,000 feet and my rate of climb has increased. I am still reluctant  to move my plane, to explore the air to see if there is better climb here. I stay put, just circling over that black rooftop, eyeing the athletic fields just beyond. I will not put my plane into that field. I will not.

I will myself to rise. First I will just climb out of here. Then I will worry about how I get home. I am flying from an unfamiliar airfield and I haven’t a clue where I am. How far out am I? What valley is this? Where is the river? What of the weather?

I turn the radio back on and the people I had been flying with are all declaring another turnpoint. They are leaving me behind.

I don’t care about turnpoints. I don’t want to go to another turnpoint, I just want to find the friggin’ field I took off from. I just want to go back, I want to land, but to go back I have to keep going forward.

 

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First Flight

First Flight

When the going gets tough, the tough go traveling!

An excerpt from Adventures By Sailplane

B.S. (By Sailplane) B.C. (Before Cancer)

 

Pennsylvania and California 1990

Cold steel for a quick heal, the surgeons say. Except that those who wield the scalpel never seem to face the scars they inflict.

Those days were black. Michael would call periodically, depressed. He had moved into a horrid little apartment and then tore off the front door in a fit of rage . His parents kept asking what I was doing to their son. The truth is, I never saw him. He had dropped out of my life when he ran off with the nurse. They never accepted that he was doing this to himself.

All that I heard of my husband, this man who had been my companion for fifteen years, were rumors and late night phone calls with rambling thick talks of insurance polices and money. His depression was unbearable. The simple act of speaking with him placed a heavy drain on my heart. I felt as if his words could pull the very breath from my soul. I hate you. I  need you. You ruined my life.

I was speaking to a bottomless psychic pit, a black hole that beckoned me down with it. I felt as if I were pushed and pulled into his enormously dangerous swirling whirlwind of human emotional debris, and if I did not extricate myself form this downward spiral of events, I would die, battered by some senseless piece of refuse swirling in the murk. I had to get out. I had to pull myself away.

I called Eva, my lycra and big haired Czech friend from Connecticut,  who was now living in California. “Can I come visit?”

Of course.

I stayed a week, a week during which I poured my heart out. I simply cannot comprehend these bizarre events. I am beside myself and I can see that my constant ravings are a bit tedious for those who must listen. I fear I will wear out my welcome. I need space. I need to wander and be alone. I excuse myself and head to San Francisco.

The weather was beautiful. North of the city, I drove to Sonoma. I sampled wine as I traveled the road, not knowing where it might take me. The climate; the unending rows of vines, staked and laden with fruit; the hills; and the flowers all seemed comforting and impossibly light compared to my life in the east.

I could relocate to San Franscisco, I thought. And come up here on weekends. I stopped for lunch and soaked in the possibilities and the sunshine as I continued my trek through the valley.

In Calistoga I stopped for the evening. That night I wandered through town, stopping to eat at a place where I shared some space at the bar with an owner of a local vineyard. We talked about wine, about the valley, about the food. It was a pleasant and innocuous conversation, and I went to bed that night, well satiated from a combination of a good dinner and distance from my life.

***

At the eastern edge of Calistoga, before the vineyards take over the landscape, there is an airstrip. Glider Rides, the sign says. Something about the idea of a glider ride was appealing this California morning. I approached the desk.

“What’s involved in getting ride?” I asked.

“They won’t start until 10:30 or 11.”

Ten thirty or eleven. I want to get moving, back to San Francisco. But some indefinable sense that I had to do this held me there.

“I’ll wait.”

I put my name the top of the passenger list, and set off to explore the town and the mud baths until it is time to fly.

***

I returned around eleven am. A quiet bustle, a discreet hum of activity hangs in the air. Someone fusses with the cowling of an engine; someone else takes the  canopy cover off a glider and removes the ropes that hold the wings to the round. He calls for help and together the two men push the engineless plane towards me, over to the flight line.

I am introduced to my pilot and the engineless plane that will take me aloft.

I ask no questions. I feel no fear. I climb into the front seat of the glider and fasten my seat belts.

The pilot, an older gentleman, settles himself into the seat directly behind me. I hear the sound of his seat belts linking, metal clasp against metal hook, and the turning of dials and the beeping of instruments as they come alive.

“Ready?” asks the voice behind me.

I am ready.  I look up and see the big bubble canopy come down over my head. It latches into place. I sit sealed in my seat in the front of the plane, and I wait.

Through the canopy I hear the sputtering sound of a motor, and a big red and white plane taxies out onto the strip front of us. The propeller whirls, dust billows up, and a young man runs up to the nose of the glider with a long yellow rope in his hand. I see his free hand open and close in some sort of silent signal, and he runs away.

In front of me,  the big red and white tow plane positions itself in place on the runway. Its engine is roaring and dust and dirt spills into the air behind it. The yellow tow line that connects the two planes becomes taunt as the red and white beast inches forward.

Someone lifts a wing off the ground, leveling the sailplane.

“Here we go”, warns the voice from behind.  The rope gives the glider a tug, and all at once we are bumping over the ground, hurtling down the runway in the dust behind the big red and white airplane.

At first it seems awkward and somewhat out of control. The stick maneuvers left and right, and I sense the concentration of the pilot in back. We hurtle forward, faster, faster, faster. The bumping over the ground grinds into a steady hum , and then it smooths. We are skimming over the ground, being pulled mercilessly forward behind the big roaring red and white beast in front. The ground rushes by, perilously close, and then, all of a sudden, the tow plane breaks with the ground. We are flying.

The plane in front of me points its nose upwards and we follow, banking to the left in tandem, the two aircraft rise through the air in perfect formation.

I look out over acres and acres of vineyards. Tall hillsides form the bounds of the valley where rows of staked grapes stand neatly aligned beneath the beautiful blue California skies. I am quite lost in the perfection of the scene below when a sudden bang brings me back to the situation at hand.

What was that noise?  Images of falling from the sky hit the pit of my stomach and I grab hold of the glider’s sides.

Laughter erupts from the seat behind me.

“It’s ok. I just released the tow rope. Look, we’re flying on our own.”

And so we were. I peeked out from the confines of my seat. The tow plane had disappeared and silently, effortlessly we were soaring. The sensation of flying like this was so strange, so unlike anything I had ever experienced before. All at once it was peaceful, gentle, and thrilling.

“Is this safe?” I inquire, a bit belatedly, from my passenger’s seat.

“Haven’t had an accident yet,” says the voice in the back. “And I’ve been flying thirty years. This is a great place to fly. I come down every summer. Come on, let’s go explore.”

The plane banks steeply on its side and circles like a bird. I lean into the turn and look out the long wing, to the earth. It looks as if I could just slide down the wing and fall to the ground. But we don’t fall, we rise.

‘We’re in lift,” says the pilot. “Lets see if we can climb up a bit.” And we stay in our tight little circle, going around and around. There the plane evens out and we are flying straight ahead.

“Want to stall it?” asks the pilot hopefully.

“No, no!”  I answer, my aerial confidence still that of a fledging.

“It’s too early to get too high. The ground doesn’t heat up enough to produce good lift for another hour or two. But we can fly around the valley. Where would you like to go?”

“Over to those hills,” I point westward and the plane heads to the mountains. From my birds eye view, I spy mansions and pools, roadways and forest, valleys and hills. We swoop and we swirl in the air, surveying the earth from our aerial perch. It is so expansive, so beautiful. There is an inmate sense of proportion to the roll of the land viewed from half way into the sky. In my silence I am stunned by the magnitude of the experience.

“Time’s almost up. We’ll have to head back,” the voice interrupts my reverie.

We turn back towards the airport. As the plane descends everything looms larger. The perfect rows of vineyards start to weave a bit, the ever green from above, a bit less even as we get closer. The cultivated ground comes closer as the nose of the glider points to the earth, and  I watch as my perspective vanishes. All I see is the dusty landing strip rising up to meet me.  Just when it seems like we will collide with our destination, the sailplane levels out and we glide down slowly, parallel with the ground, until I feel the earth meet the belly of the plane and  we come to a stop. The airplane dips one wing to the ground, as if to officially mark the end of the flight.

I thanked the pilot, paid my bill and headed back to San Fransisco.

And so it was, by way of New Haven, New Orleans, Hershey, PA and Calistoga, CA that I happened to stumble upon this sport called soaring.

 

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